Friday, August 27, 2010

Pining?

I've been getting a lot of relationship advice lately.

Some of it, like the advice on Mr. Doug Phillip's "How to Evaluate a Suitor" CD, has been life-changing.

Some of it has been just plain bad.

Some people have even cornered me in public and admonished me like a five year old that some of my behavior is not appropriate. I've been accused "chasing" a guy.

This was utterly shocking to me, as I'm not the type to chase at all. I've always been the type to wait for the young man to make the first move. Such was the case with the young man I've mentioned in the past, who I've been good friends with for almost a year before the idea of pursuing something more even entered my head.

As I said, I've been friends with this young man a while. As such I'm comfortable being myself around him. I'm comfortable texting my friends. I'm comfortable messaging them on Facebook. I'm also quite comfortable baking them the odd pie or pound cake when they've had a bad day. (Just ask my former roommate.) Apparently this behavior is "chasing" a guy, even when we've been friends for a while.

I would think completely changing the way I interact with someone the moment they become a romantic interest would be more chasing, but oh well.

To be fair, I haven't actually been out on any kind of date or had any serious conversations on relationship or other matters with this young man outside of as just friends. He's heavily involved with his church, working two jobs to pay for school, and school itself, which just started this past week, and we as such haven't really "gone anywhere."

And just to make things a little more complex? This Monday my best friend introduced me to an old friend of hers, who is equally as mature, if not moreso, than the first young man, equally as intelligent, and equally as "removed from the world." Unlike the first young man, who we'll call George, this second young man, who we'll call Mark, is deeply Catholic, which is the faith in which I have grown up and with which I am most familiar.

For all of ten minutes, I was in a terrible tizzy.

And then I realized that my life is most fortunately NOT a Jane Austen novel. Because as much as I love them, I wouldn't really want to live in one. I don't need to lock myself in my room and weep, nor do I need to spin a web of drama as apposed to a support group.

I've been given a very rare opportunity here. An opportunity to put my head above my heart. An opportunity for discernment and prayer, a chance to grow closer to God. And a chance to NOT fall head over heels into an attachment without considering all aspects of the situation.

After all, why do I really need to be caught up in young men, chasing them or otherwise? I have the love of a vast extended family, and most of all of my God and his Son.

So who's pining?

Monday, August 23, 2010

Crazy Day!

My first day back at classes today. Will post tomorrow a recipe for a nice homemade gift.

Monday, August 16, 2010

Natural Beauty Monday - The Dauphine on Teenage Skin Woes

Disclaimer: I am no scientist, nor am I a dermatologist. I have tried to do my research well using reputable sources, but I may get some things wrong. Do let me know if I have so I can change it.

When that controversial Queen Marie Antoinette arrived in France, she was just a young teenager, as was her new husband. Together they were Dauphin and Dauphine, or, simply the Crown Prince of France and his wife, the future Queen Consort.

Now, young Louis was not known to be a handsome fellow. He was rather on the large side, awkward in social graces, and his young skin was covered in that plague of adolescence; acne. And so the porcelain-skinned Marie had this advice for her new husband, which may sound strange to us, and utterly simple;

Wash your face with lavender water several times a day, and drink lots of donkey's milk.

That's it! And according to sources, it worked!

So why did this utterly simple formula work so well?

Lavender has many, many amazing qualities. The scent is soothing and calming, of course, but beyond that even! It can be just as calming to a rash or to red skin as it is to a flurried mind, a good quality in an anti-acne remedy. The essential oil has been shown to have antibacterial and antiseptic qualities, and since acne is caused in part by bacteria, it delivers a double punch.

Another good quality of lavender water that I've found is it works very well for evening out skin that is dry in some places and oily in others. When the skin is naturally moisturized, and spritzing skin with even just plain water can help with that, it secrets less sebum (oil) to counteract dry spots, thus resulting in less oily skin. Amazing, isn't it?

Lavender water is extremely easy to make on your own, even from the bare bones of the recipe. If you have a good nursery nearby, you can go out and find your own little plant and set it up for a season. Once it blooms, you'll have your own little lavender crop! You can grow from seed as well; it's much cheaper, but you'll have to wait a little longer, as lavender does not flower in its first year. NOTE: If you plan on using lavender for cosmetic purposes, make certain you never use pesticides on it.

If you can't grow your own lavender, it's not difficult to find online from bulk herb suppliers, or even locally at specialty and culinary shops. (It's great in recipes too, whether sweet or savory!) You can still provide your own water for the recipe, after all!

All you need is two our three handfuls of fresh (one one handful of dried) lavender blossoms and four cups of water. Tie the lavender up in a piece of cheesecloth to save having to strain it later and boil your water. Toss in your lavender, cover, and let it simmer about five minutes. Remove it from the heat and let it steep. I usually start in the morning and that evening the steeping is done. Pull out the cheesecloth bundle, bottle the liquid, et voila! Lavender water! You can add a tablespoon or so of vodka as a preservative, if you like. It's also simple to make lavender water with essential oil; just add thirty drops, give or take a few for preference, to four cups of water.

You can put some on a cottonball and wipe your face with it twice a day, or you can do what I like to do, which is to find a small spray bottle and mist my face with it after I shower.

Another thing I liked to do, back when I was younger and my skin was more troublesome, was to add a few drops of lavender oil to a bottle of witch hazel. Witch hazel is a wonderful astringent for very stubborn skin, just make sure to moisturize dry spots after using it.

Now what's this about donkey's milk?

Donkey's milk is not exactly popular in the modern world, and as such there has really been little research on it, but a few things are certain. The most notable is that it is very low in casein, the primary protein found in cow's milk, and very high in lysozomes, which are enzymes known to consume biological debris such as the natural hormones present in milk from a pregnant animal. It also contains high levels of many of the vitamins you would find today in "Hair, skin and nail" supplements.

Because of its chemical makeup, primarily the presence of both natural and unnatural hormones, cow's milk has come under fire as a cause of acne. Cow's milk can also cause an increase in blood glucose, which in turn can increase insulin, which, by chain reaction, increases sebum production.

Right now there is little evidence for or against this part of Marie's cure, but it could possibly be that it's not necessarily the donkey's milk that helps acne, it's drinking it instead of cow's milk. Unless you have a female donkey around, you may not really be able to test this. But you can try goat's milk, which also has a radically different protein and amino acid structure from cow's milk. It also is easy on lactose intolerant stomachs, and you may even have a mild cow's milk allergy you didn't know about that is contributing to your breakouts.

Goat's milk can be a little expensive, however, unless you have a goat of your own. And if the idea of keeping either a donkey or a goat around for milk and pet purposes intrigues you, may I direct you to Storey Publishing's excellent line of "Guides to Raising" particularly their title on Miniature Livestock.

If any of you have experiences with either of these tricks, tell us in the comments! We'd love to hear your advice. Also let me know if you have any success with these ideas, or other tips for troubled teenage skin.

Who knows? Perhaps her Majesty knew something scientists, and the beauty industry experts, don't.

Sunday, August 15, 2010

Home-Grown Beauty

(No, I'm not talking about the kind we Southern gals naturally have!)

I know this was not my intended next post, but it's been on my mind lately. As a society, women, and, increasingly, men have been convinced that we all simply must run out and spend ourselves into debt over new and "breakthrough" cosmetics. My sister-in-law, who has been staying with us for the week, laments over how much her Proactiv makeup and skincare costs, but feels its her only option for her acne-prone skin.

This is simply not true, like most of the things society tries to convince us of using the TV. A dear friend of my family currently has a rapidly expanding small business creating homemade body scrubs, and her recipes are some of the most simple, honest, and natural I've seen.

I don't know about you, but I feel pampered when I use something simple and natural. And I feel a little victorious when I use something that was at least partially created using something I produced myself. So...Starting this week, and ending when I run out of recipes, each Monday I shall be posting a recipe for a homemade product, for men, women or both, that you can make using at least one ingredient you can produce yourself!

Tomorrow? An infamous queen's teenage beauty secret!